Saturday, May 19, 2007

We're adopting, we don't have cooties...

I know sometimes it is difficult for others to understand what we are going through. They may not be sure how to handle us, what to do or say around us. What they don't realize is that it actually hurts more to not be included in things.

We're adopting- we don't have cooties.

Sometimes people are not sure how to act around us, or what to say to us (or any other couple or individual adopting). Just be yourself. Sometimes people are hesitant to talk about their kids, their experiences in parenting or pregnancy, etc. Please don't not talk about it. We want to know. We want to be included. It hurts more when we are not.

Just because our family is growing a bit differently than yours, or that our "pregnancy" is a bit longer than yours doesn't mean that we are any different than any other couple who are waiting to be parents. We love hearing about others, sharing accomplishments, moments, etc. We feel left out when we aren't told stories, aren't shown the pictures. We're just regular people, who care about people and want to know what is going on in their lives. That's what friends and family are for.

We know our time will come, and some day we will have children. We can't tell you when, we don't know. But sometime, someday, we will be parents too. But for now, don't be hesitant to share your joy, pictures, accomplishments, etc with us. It helps us learn, and gives us something to get excited about, knowing that someday we will get to have those experiences with our children.

2 comments:

Jessatsea said...

Liz, I think about the journey you are on and I think about how strong you have to be to embark on said journey. not only the time commitment, but rather, the heart commitment.

That song, Maybe, from Annie rings in my head... maybe far away... or maybe real close by... etc.

You are going to be a wonderful mother and the perfect child IS waiting around the corner and when that time comes... you are going to have so many people cheering for you!!! Keep the faith, my friend... I wish I could take away some of the heartache of the wait... however, this is what makes you YOU and what will make your heart even stronger... and THIS is what is going to make your child... that much EXTRA special and lucky!

Hugs

Renee & Paul said...

I know how you feel. Some walk on egg shells and others take it too far. It's hard. Praying for you.